I Lost Love - Wait - Dont Give Up

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When the reality hits and you find yourself saying "I lost love" it can hit you like a ton of bricks. I know when you come to that realization it can feel like life simply is not worth living anymore and it may seem like you will never feel happiness again. I think most of us have been at that point before.

Don't give up though, no matter how impossible it may seem that you will be happy again, you can be. I am not saying that it will be easy or that you won't go through a lot of pain... you will. I am just saying that you can find love and happiness again and the better you deal with your breakup the faster you may recover from it.

I am not an expert but I have been through it before and I may be able to offer you a little advice. Here are some ideas I have used myself to help me get over my pain as quickly as possible. Some of my ideas may just help you.

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1. Give yourself as much time as you need. I remember that once I heard someone say that you should allow yourself to grief over your lost love for one week for every year the two of you were together. Personally, I think that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

There is no formula for determining how long it will take you to feel like you have moved on and can be happy again. Everyone is different and every relationship is different. For the most part, it will take as long as it takes.

I do have to say one thing though, if you find that you simply don't seem to be bouncing back even a little bit after several months, you may be suffering from depression and you may need a little extra help to get back to your old self. If that is the case, find a counselor who can help you out, you don't need to suffer unnecessarily.

2. While you are healing, be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to enjoy the things that made you feel good before (as long as they are positive things). If you used to enjoy hanging out with your friends, than hang out with your friends.

If you used to enjoy working out then workout. Just spend your time and energy engaging in positive things that make you feel good about yourself and life in general.

If you forget about your pain for a little while than that is just a bonus.

3. If you have been planning on doing something such as take a class or go on vacation, do it now. It may be just the thing you need to keep your mind active. While it will take you as long as it takes you to move on, there is no one to say that you have to stay inside your home dwelling on your pain the whole time.

Most of us have, or will, say the words "I lost love" at some point in our lives. It is a rotten thing to go through, but how we handle it can help determine how soon we will be able to move on and find love again.

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I Miss My Ex - Take Your Time

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Wow, one of the hardest things to deal with in life is losing someone you love to a break up. It can really take a long time to move on after a break up and you will most likely find yourself saying "I miss my ex" many times during the process.

No one can, or should, tell you how long it will be until you feel 'whole' again. Everyone is different and everyone will take as long as they take to finally get over a lost love and feel like they are ready to move on.

Please do not let anyone badger you into 'getting back out there' sooner than you feel you are ready. No one else can make that determination.

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However, if you don't seem to be bouncing back after a few months (and I'm not talking about dating, I just mean finding some joy in your day to day life) than you may want to find a counselor or a therapist that can help you work through your grief.

That may be one of the most common misconceptions: losing someone you loved to a break up is just as traumatic as losing someone to death. It's still grief and it will still take time to get over.

There are some things that you can do to make the process go a little smoother and maybe even a little more quickly.

The first thing on your list should be to try to get reacquainted with someone special... you. It's all too common to stop doing some of the things you liked to do when you are in a relationship. Many times the other person won't enjoy the same activities that you do so you just don't do them.

When you feel really low and you miss your ex the most, that is the time to spend time doing the things you really loved to do. I'm not saying that you will suddenly feel better, but you may find that you will be able to get your mind off of your ex at least for a little while.

Another thing that you should do during this time is to try to figure out what you can work on to make yourself a better person.

Now, be careful, you don't want to rehash your whole relationship and take all the blame on to yourself. That is not what I mean. I am talking about improving on the person you are. The changes you make may have nothing to do with what went wrong in your relationship.

What I mean is that since you are on your own for a little while, you might as well just try to make some good, positive changes. Why not? That way when you do meet someone else, you can bring a better version of you to the relationship. It will help you alleviate some of your baggage.

I am truly sorry for the pain and loneliness you are feeling, but remember, that every time you say "I miss my ex" that is the time to try to distract yourself with a positive activity.

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Relationship Self Help - May Save Your Relationship

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Many people are uncomfortable with airing their 'dirty laundry' in public. They just don't want to sit down with a therapist and hash out their troubles. They do, however, want help for those trouble and for those people relationship self help is as close as the internet.

There are many fine books and other resources online that will help the two of you find your way back to the love you once felt for each other. You don't have to go to a therapist if that idea makes you uncomfortable, you can do it yourself.

If you are unsure where to start, simply do a search for forums that are centered around relationships. Here you will likely be able to get recommendations on some great self help resources, as well as some excellent advice from others in the forum.

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If you want to get started right now, here are some tipsand ideas on where to get started:

1. I hate to ask, don't get mad, but the first thing to consider is are you really sure your partner cares about the relationship as much as you do? It's really easy to convince yourself that your partner is as concerned with your relationship as you are, but in a lot of cases, that's not the truth.

To be honest, a lot of relationship problems start because only one person is trying. It's not uncommon to have relationships where one person simply doesn't care and the other person is the one who does all the heavy lifting.

That dynamic can only last so long before the one doing all the work gets fed up and stops trying, from that point on, it's all down hill.

Take a minute (and be honest) and take a long hard look at your relationship. If you find that this describes your relationship, you must know that it won't be impossible but it will be a lot harder to turn things around.

2. Next you and your partner need to carefully look at the problems in your relationship. Try to figure out what the problems are, and be honest, and sit down to find alternative ways of acting or treating each other.

3. Please keep in mind that it won't happen overnight. If you or your partner is expecting a quick fix you will be disappointed. If you expect this process to be quick and easy and it takes longer than you would like, it's possible that you will give up because you think it's simply not going to work out.

Instead, maintain realistic expectations and be willing to stick with it until you see some progress. If both of you are really trying, things will get better it's just a matter of time.

The basic recipe is to find what is causing the problems between you, figure out how to correct those problems (in many cases it will mean changing some habits between the two of you, hence the amount of time it will take) and just give it time.

It sounds easy, but it will take enormous commitment from both of you to make it work. The good news is that if you are both committed you can do it and it's pretty easy to find all the relationship self help you will need.

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How To Win Love Back Fair And Square

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I can't even begin to guess how many books, and articles have been written on the subject of how to win love back. I imagine the number would be well into the thousands. The point is, that finding a way to reconcile with someone you love and lost is a common problem that many people would love to have the answer for.

You can take heart, no matter how impossible it may seem to win your love back, there is always a chance that they feel the same way you do.

Since I don't know you or the circumstances surrounding your breakup, I can only offer some good, general advice. Hopefully you will find something here that will allow you to find a way to reunite with your love.

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If your breakup is recent, you need to leave your ex alone for a while. I know, I know, this sounds like impossible advice to follow (not to mention painful) but if your ex broke up with you it is really important to give them some space.

If you just go chasing after them one of two things will happen: one, they will think you are totally whipped and they will keep you hanging on indefinitely to feed their ego, or two, they will become freaked out by your behavior and consider you a pathetic (or possibly dangerous) stalker.

You don't want your ex thinking of you in these ways. It will not bode well for any future relationship.

Another good reason to give it some time is that you can make some changes in your behavior. Even if you were not to blame for the breakup you still are not perfect... no one is.

So, if you find yourself single for a little while, why not spend some time improving on who you are. That way the next time you enter into a relationship (hopefully when you get back with your ex) you will be bringing an even better version of yourself to the relationship.

While you are giving your ex some cooling off time, why not spend some time with some old friends that you have not had a lot of time to see lately? This will have two benefits, for one thing it will help you keep your mind off of your ex, and two, you will just be able to have a little fun. That never hurt anyone, did it?

After a few weeks have gone by it may be a good time to talk to your ex. Call them and ask them if they would like to go out for dinner, lunch or coffee. It doesn't really matter.

Do yourself a favor and don't come on too strong. If you act like your date will just be some big 'let's get back together' time they might get scared off. Keep it light and easy.

And last but not least, you have to face the very real possibility that they won't want to get back with you. You should do everything you can but you must be willing to walk away if they say they are not interested in getting back together.

There are no guarantees in life but if you try, you might just be able to learn how to win love back. It is possible, good luck.

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Relationship Rescue - Keep Ahead Of The Game

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For years I told my kids to choose wisely when it comes to relationships. I pointed out that it takes two people to make a relationship work, but only one to ruin it. If they find themselves in a relationships with someone who isn't grown up enough to work on the issues than they might find themselves in need of relationship rescue.

While it's never too late to make a relationship work, the longer you wait the more work you will have. Try to stop problems in their tracks before they become ingrained patterns of behavior - which will be much harder to deal with down the road.

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So, you may be wondering, how can I save my relationship now that things have gotten out of hand? The first, and maybe the hardest, thing you have to do is to honestly assess the relationship. Are you truly convinced that your partner cares as much about the relationship as you do? If not, than it may well be time to call it quits and move on.

It is pretty close to impossible to fix the troubles in a relationship if you are the only one trying. As painful as it might be in the short term, you will most likely find that in the long run you are much happier and you may even wonder why you hung on so long.

If you believe that both of you are committed to making things work than the next order of business is to figure out what you've been doing wrong and change it. Easier said than done, I know, but it is possible if the two of you work together.

Change, even change for the better, is a tough thing for most people. Obviously the way you and your partner have been doing things in your relationship isn't working. If you want things to be better you have to be willing to do things differently, and that can be difficult and scary.

You must be patient with yourself and your partner. You are both undergoing a lot of changes and it isn't always going to be smooth sailing. If one or the other of you 'messes up' be compassionate and don't beat yourselves up about it.

I realize that in our society we want, and expect, quick and easy solutions to our problems, but it won't be quick and it probably won't be easy. Be willing to put in the time and effort that it takes to get the results you need and want. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and forgive your partner for their mistakes. If you both do that, you will already be further ahead of most couples.

Finding relationship rescue for your tattered relationship is as close as your partner. Just talking and deciding if you are both of the same page when it comes to your relationship (and if you are both willing to do what it takes to make it work) is sometimes all you really need to do.

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To Win An Ex Back - Meet Your Enemy - You

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Learning the tricks on how to win an ex back might be tougher than you think. No, it's not impossible. As a matter of fact it's probably more achievable than you may realize. The real problem is that in order to make things work this time around you may need to face someone that can really be difficult to face, and that someone is you.

There are issues in any relationship. Some issues are big and some are small. Sometimes the issues are fairly evenly divided between the two partners and even though it seems like only one person is to blame for the whole mess it really does take two to tango. You both need to work on things together.

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In order to learn how to win an ex back you have to be willing to face whatever issues you brought to the relationship, and that's not always fun to do. If you're strong enough and determined enough to get them back then you'll find the strength you need to face what you need to face.

One thing to look out for though, do not make the mistake of thinking that just because you make changes everything will be great for the two of you. It might be if you were 100% at fault with everything that went wrong and your ex was perfect, but of course, we both know that is not the case. You can't change your ex, only they can change themselves but if they are not willing to fix themselves the way you are fixing yourself, it might be all for naught.

So, how do you go about making changes? Well, you figure out your issues and if you are completely honest with yourself you can figure out why you have the issues you have.

For example, if you get jealous easily, it could mean that you have either had someone cheat on you or you just do not feel worthy of love. If you do not feel like you are worthy, it is only natural that on some level you would think that he has made a big mistake loving you and that sooner or later he will realize his mistake and leave you.

So you try to sabotage the relationship and make them leave you. Sounds stupid, I know, but it usually is a subconscious thing and you really do not know that you are doing it until someone points it out to you.

This may not apply to you, but if deep down that's how you feel then that is how you are going to react. This could be the big problem why you can't seem to stay in a relationship. The best thing you can do for yourself is to find someone who can help you work through all of this. Do not be afraid of the idea of working with a therapist. Just find one that you like, feel comfortable with, trust and who can point you in the right direction.

It is really not all that hard learning how to win an ex back. It will take time and persistence on your part and if you can find the wherewithall to see it through you will be able to have great relationships for the rest of your life.

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Want My Ex Back - But I Want It Right

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The answer to the question 'do I want my ex back?' is if you are thinking that you do then you probably do. You see if your ex still loves you, no matter how much you've messed up in the past, she will more than likely be receptive to you if you can prove to her that she won't be wasting her time and that she won't get hurt again.

No one wants to be hurt and no one wants to set themselves up to be hurt by trusting someone who has already proven they can't be trusted. For this reason you will probably be able to win her back but you had better expect an uphill climb.

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The first step is to give her a little time and space. Don't rush her or expect everything to happen quickly. It takes a lot longer to rebuild trust than it took to tear it apart. More than likely by the time you've gotten to this point you've let her down more than once. Please don't think that all that past hurt and all those mistakes will go away and she'll forget about them just because you say 'I'm sorry' or you tell her that 'I've changed'. She'll probably need to see some proof that that is true.

It is important for you to concentrate on yourself instead of just trying to convince her you have changed. It will take you time to truly change the person that you are and you do not ever want to make the mistake of thinking you can somehow trick her into believing you are a different man.

Even if you could what would that accomplish? Eventually she will just see that you have lied to her again and she will just leave you again and the two of you will truly be done. It is much better to do the work and actually make the changes and make them permanent. It will not only give you the answer to the question 'do I want my ex back' it will also help you to keep the relationship strong and just make you a better person overall.

Depending on how much time has passed since the two of you broke up, you may want to start all over with your ex. Pretend like the two of you are just getting to know each other. Take it very slow. The worst thing you can do at that point is to try and talk her into trusting you again. Do not just pay more lip service to it. Instead try to spend time with her, just as a friend, and let her see that you've really changed. When she sees it with her own eyes it is much more likely that she will learn to trust you again.

Remember, if you want to know 'do I want my ex back' the answer really lies mostly with you. Love does not die that easily so unless you really treated her badly it is very likely that she still cares for you. It is up to you to prove to her that she's not a fool for taking you back.

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