If you've been asking yourself "how to make my ex love me again?", the answer is that you can't really "make" him change his feelings by forcing, pleading or threatening him. You cannot control the mind or body of another person no matter how hard you try. And, if you've been trying too hard, your efforts could actually backfire on you. But there are actions that you can take which can make him change his mind all by himself.
Just the question "how to make my ex love me again?" can tell you a lot about your current situation. You probably feel scared, sad, and desperate about the loss of love from your ex and feel like you must have it back. So, you've focused on that and put all of your efforts towards him. Well, it's time to divert your focus if you want to have any chance of getting your ex back in your arms. Where do you need to put the focus? Try on yourself for a change.
It's understandable and common that when you feel your loved on pulling away, you grab on as tight as you can and try to control him back to the way you want him. But this will only drive him further away and leave you with a wounded self-image which in turn makes you appear less attractive to him--the opposite of what your goal is. So, the first step is to let your ex go.
Yes, let him go. This is not meant to be permanent but you must make this an unwavering commitment in your mind. If possible, avoid all contact. If this is not possible due to certain circumstances, just keep your contact as brief as possible.
Now, that he is out of his number one spot in your mind, put yourself there. This means treating yourself as the number one in your life now. Make sure you eat right (lots of fruit, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, and dairy), exercise, and, just as important, get enough sleep. Sleep keeps your nerves at bay, rejuvenates your body, helps keep weight off, and makes you look rested; while not getting enough sleep can leave you frazzled and haggard-looking.
Get involved in an activity or group that you enjoy. Go out with friends and family and also just take time for yourself by yourself. Read or go for a walk. If you really like your job, throw yourself into that. Or take a vacation or go on a shopping spree. Your relationship troubles may have caused you to forget about the things that lift your spirits. Now is the time to remember them.
This may take some getting used to at first, but sooner or later, you'll find that you like this way of living, you'll feel better about yourself, and you'll be more attractive to others. At this point, decide if you are ready to contact your ex again. Don't rush it. Wait until you are ready. And when you are, you'll be ready to tackle the situation from a whole new, more confident, and stronger perspective. This is the way to start with "how to make my ex love me again?"
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