You are dying to know what your chances of getting back with ex are. Well, that depends on you and the energy you are willing to put forth in trying to win them back. Some would say you have no control over this situation and that if your ex wants to come back then they will, if not, they won't.
I do not necessarily agree with that line of thinking. There are things you can do to encourage your ex to reconsider their decision to leave you.
There is plenty of help out there. You can do a search online for self-help ebooks or join a forum for some advice on wht to do. A lot of what you will hear and read may surprise you. Especially if you hold some animosity toward your ex for the things that went wrong. You will hear that a lot of the problem sits in your lap and if you want your ex back you need to work on yourself and the reasons they gave for breaking up with you.
They left for a reason but no matter what that reason is or was you have the ability to get them back. You must be willing to do whatever it takes to make changes for the better and then find a way to let your ex see those changes. The chances of getting back with ex will increase greatly if you take this step.
Your ex may see the changes you have made and start to reconsider their decision or they may think you are full of BS and try not to care or not trust that you can change. Do not get discouraged, no one said this would be easy. If they reject you out of hand then just keep making the improvements in yourself. Do not get angry, accept that they cannot trust you right now because of past mistakes and work to become a better person.
Did you know that with a little effort 95% of relationships can be saved? That's right, if we all learned how to reach our full potential as human beings we could turn the 1 in 2 marriages that end in divorce around and most everyone could be happy.
Because men and women are so different we cannot expect to just move in together and be happy. There is a learning curve that most people just do not get. Too often when the honeymoon is over so is the marriage because couples just expect things to be perfect like they seem to be when you first get together. Love is definitely blind.
Yeah sure, you met and fell in love but that is not all a good relationship is built on. Nor can love sustain a relationship. It is a great building block or starting point but do not rely on it to keep things going. You also need mutual respect and a willingness to compromise instead of getting angry that you do not get your way on every little point of contention.
If you do not learn these things and put them into practice during your relationship you will have to learn them when the relationship is over and then figure out what your chances of getting back with ex are at that point.
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