To be blunt, breaking up sucks! And it's not just the feelings of loneliness that make it a lousy experience. Nasty things like guilt, pain, despair, and self-loathing can all seem to rear their ugly heads at the same time. Each of these emotions can derive from, or be the cause of, depression after a break up. The following thoughts will help you through it, and have you coming out the other side a new and improved you.
It is vital to realize that post-relationship depression is a very real problem. While that may not be a medical diagnosis, you must take it seriously, seeking professional help if needed.
Chances are your friends will try to cheer you up. But, let's face it, sometimes the things they say after a break up only make it worse. However, they can be a great resource to recovering from heartbreak, so be sure to take them up on any offers to help; assuming they fit in with your plans.
The main thing you need to do at this point is focus on taking care of yourself. You may not feel like eating, talking to anyone, or even taking care of basic hygiene. But you have to find a way to do it. Again, see a professional if these things start happening.
Though you may feel like it now, don't try to erase your ex completely from your mind. It's impossible to do so, and by trying to forget, you will actually be remembering more. You may want to get right back into another relationship to forget your ex (or to fill the void that has been left by their leaving). You just have to give it time. Do your best to avoid harmful rebound relationships, at all costs, as they can lead to a much worse situation.
One thing that really helps is to be around people. It may be difficult to be around friends and family that offer advice without understanding what you're really going through. The trick is to be social without having to deal with people that know you, your ex, or your situation. That's why volunteering for charities outside of your home is such a great idea. You don't have to worry about the excess emotional baggage, and you are getting rid of your depression after a break up and helping others at the same time.
While being around other people can work wonders, it's okay to enjoy your own company, too. Now is the ideal time to do things you have always wanted to do. Just be careful not to do things you associate with being a couple, at least at first.
A lot of depression after a break up stems from having too much extra time. How you use that time is key to your emotional well-being. You can use this time to make yourself more miserable, or you can use it to become a better, stronger, happier person. Admittedly, the latter choice isn't always easy, but it is possible...the choice is yours!
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