Relaionship breakups can be tough on both the person being broken up, and the person doing the breaking up. You put all that time and effort into building a relationship just to have it all come crashing down. It is understandable that you will have troubled emotions over it.
However there are things you should keep in mind when ending a relationship. There is a lot of advice out there to help you through the trouble times regardless of which side of the break up you are on.
Try to remember that regardless of why you and your partner broke up, you both cared for each other at one time and you both deserve respect and decency. It is best to try and end a relationship on good terms, but if you do not end it on good terms it is probably best to simply avoid contact with your ex.
It sounds pretty obvious but a lot of people make the mistake of trying to stay in contact with their ex. This is especially true for the one who got dumped. If they broke up with you, as much as it hurts, just let them go. All you do by contacting them is annoy them and cause further friction.
Not only does that bother them, but it only causes more grief for you. Time heals all wounds but if you keep that wound open, it will never heal. So try to just move on with your life and move past the tough times.
Also try to stop and think about your relationship. Why did they break up with you? Or why did you break up with them? Try to find the reasons why your relationship failed so you can avoid making those same mistakes in the future.
If your partner is at fault (and try to be honest with yourself here) then make sure to find out what they did wrong so you can avoid those qualities in the next person you meet. If you are at fault try to work on improving those qualities so history does not repeat itself.
It is also advisable to take a little time off after a break up. Leave town and spend the weekend away having fun. This can help take your mind off all the negative emotions and help you clear your head. Sulking over the break up does not do you any good and it just prolongs the healing process.
After that you may want to put your focus into a hobby. You probably wont feel like dating again any time soon so it could be a great help to find something else to occupy your mind. If you can find a fun hobby that you can engross yourself in, it can help you put aside the hurt from relaionship breakups and allow you to get on with your life.
Lastly, try to avoid gossiping about your ex. Regardless of why you broke up they still deserve respect and all you do by gossiping about them is make yourself look bad. Try to end your relationship with dignity and grace, hold your head high and simply keep on moving forward.
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