The break up happened six months ago and you are still saying, "I miss my ex". You are also wondering how this is even possible. He hurt you badly by having that affair and when you broke it off you thought you would be done with him forever.
You now have two choices. You can try to get him back or learn effective ways to get over him and get on with your life.
If you choose to try to get him back then you have to ask yourself two very important questions. If he comes back will he just hurt me again? And, is he worth taking back? The answer to these questions are, if he hurt you once he will probably do it again. Especially if he does not think he did anything wrong in the first place. So the answer to the second question is fairly obvious, no, he is not worth taking back.
You need to figure out why you are still saying, "I miss my ex". Is it because you still love him or do you miss the drama of the relationship? If you know deep in your heart that he was no good for you and you just miss the drama, my advice to you would be to get some counseling. Counseling is not a bad thing. Having been where you are I can tell you it was the best thing I have ever done in my life.
A good counselor can work with you to change the things in you that make you attract all the losers you have attracted your whole life. Maybe you do not think you are worthy enough to have someone decent in your life. A counselor can help you work through the things that have affected your self-esteem and help you see yourself in a different, more positive, light.
Once you start to feel more confident you will miss your ex less and less. You will start to realize that you are better off without him and that no one deserves to be hurt the way he hurt you. You can finally stop being a doormat and take charge of every aspect of your life, including your love life. Make an appointment at your salon and get a new hairstyle, go shopping with the girls and buy a new outfit or two. Start going to different clubs when you go out with the girls.
With all your new found confidence, you may just start to see that you attract a different type of man. There are men out there who like a confident woman, a woman who can seemingly do anything she puts her mind to. Just remember to not fall back into those same old tendencies of being a doormat when it comes to your relationship. Stay strong and confident and one day you will think back and wonder why the heck you hung on to that loser and almost embarrassed yourself by saying, "I miss my ex", for so long after your break up.
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