If you are reading this then it's a safe assumption that you were in a relationship that ended in a break up. Now you feel awful. Anger, guilt, a sense of loss and confusion have all set in to make your life miserable. Yet, deep down, you can't help but thinking of trying to get your girl back. While things may not have been perfect (they never are), you now realize just how much she meant to you, and now you want to see if you can work things out.
The first thing you should know is that well over 90% of all relationships can be patched up. However, you have to follow a good plan, take action, and be willing to do whatever it takes. But if you still love her and want to get your best girl back, then that should be enough motivation to do the work that needs to be done. It won't always be easy, but it is possible.
It may be painful, but you are going to have to take a look back to uncover what really went wrong. Be careful. It's easy to see the things on the surface and to assume they're the problem. Chances are, the things that you are most aware of are only the symptoms of the real problem. For example, you may think that arguing too much was why you broke up. The truth is that arguments are rarely the cause. Instead, you need to find out what was at the root of those arguments. Perhaps you were jealous or controlling, and that's what led to the constant disagreements. Whatever the case may be, keep digging until you get to the real problem.
Now that you understand the causes of the break up, you can start to work on solutions. If there were things you could have done better, then do what you can to improve yourself. On the other hand, you can't change your ex, so you will have to be ready to forgive them. There is always a chance that they will be improvements of their own, but you shouldn't make any assumptions.
Once you have all of this worked out, you can get in touch with your ex. Your first goal is to set up a time and place to talk to each other face-to-face. It should be noted that this is not a date, so don't treat it like one. Just let your ex know that you would like to talk. Try to use a matter-of-fact tone, be polite, but don't force the issue either.
When the two of you are talking, it's important to be respectful. This is not the time to try to prove you were right, and they were wrong. A good rule of thumb is to not discuss the past unless it is for the purpose of having a happier future together. If you can stick to that simple rule, then you are well on your way to getting your girl back by your side.
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