Have you been longing to find the perfect man but just don't have much luck in the boyfriend department? Does it feel like guys are just not interested in you? Are you the only one in your friend group that doesn't have a boyfriend? Perhaps it's time you developed some new skills that might help you to get a date.
It is actually possible to acquire new skills that can help you to overcome the obstacles that you face when trying to find a boyfriend. You can make some mental and physical changes, become more motivated, plus a few more ideas and you will be on your way to having that special man in your life.
You may be thinking that it's always the boy’s fault that you haven't found the right man, but you also need to consider that it could be something that you are doing. Perhaps you are very shy and find it difficult to approach a man can initiate conversation. When you first meet a guy, he doesn't know the real you and only see's the outer girl, so he may not realize that you are very shy and might mistake your shyness for being a bit snobby or stand offish. This can possibly turn a guy off and he may never get to know the real you. It isn't easy meeting new people, particularly of the opposite sex, if you are a shy person so this may be the first obstacle that you need to overcome.
Look at your body language
You need to consider your body language and behavior as these could give the wrong message to a potential boyfriend. If you are shy and withdrawn, men may see you as not approachable, but if you are outgoing and friendly then it will be reciprocated by any men you meet. Shyness can often be mistaken for pride and coldness, although that isn't who you really are, this is what your body language and behavior may be portraying.
You might be a great person who is friendly and caring and that is fantastic, but a guy needs to know that to be attracted to you. You need to build up your self confidence so that you can show the 'real you' to everyone that you meet, rather than them miss out by not getting to know you better. If you have been rejected a number of times you may be thinking that you aren't good enough or attractive enough, but chances are that you are attractive and a great person and it may just be your body language that is letting you down.
Look at your past
Think about your past and the times when you have received compliments about your beauty, your skills, and your personality and so on. I'm sure if you think about it you will remember occasions when you have received compliments and all of these compliments are proof of your worth. Whenever you are feeling low in confidence and lacking self esteem, think back to a time when someone complimented you and it will give you a boost.
Put in an effort to be extra friendly
Even though you really are a friendly person, your shyness and lack of self confidence may stop you from being outgoing and as friendly as you could be. Put in an effort to be friendly more by doing simple things like smiling at a stranger, greeting people with a 'good morning' or helping someone whenever you have the opportunity. Try to do these little things as often as you can and you will soon become more comfortable talking to strangers. This is a big skill for you to use to meet a nice guy.
You need to develop the skill of initiating a conversation with someone and by saying hello and smiling at a stranger is a good place to start. You can also ask questions about a product you want to buy instead of just picking it up and buying it. By asking questions you are initiating a conversation with the shop assistant and helping to develop your new skill.
It is a matter of practising and developing your social skills to overcome your shyness and be a little more outgoing. Men will soon look at you in a different way and will be more likely to approach you and begin a conversation. You will soon find yourself having more fun, being happier and others will see you happier and they will enjoy your company.
When you develop your social skills you will soon find yourself fighting guys off and will have the pick of the bunch. It isn't always easy to change the way that you are, but with a bit of practise you will soon have those skills you need.
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