If you have been married for years and things are just not like they used to be, you may be considering divorce. You may even have taken that first step and gone to see a lawyer. This can be a confusing, scary time for you and if you continue to be unsure of which way to go, rest assured you can stop your divorce save your marriage and continue on the path to living happily ever after.
There are some things you will need to accomplish this. A strong will, determination, commitment, a solid support system and most likely, counseling. With all this you can get beyond the problems in your marriage and stop your divorce save your marriage.
The lawyers and the courts are filled to the brim with people saying they are divorcing due to irreconcilable differences. Do they have to be? Maybe you can be the couple who sets the new standard of having reconcilable differences. There are too many people who just give up on their marriage and don't want to put in the work anymore. If this is you then go ahead with the divorce but, if you find there is still some love left after all these years and you can still communicate on some level then there may be something there left to fight for.
I guess it all depends on what the issues really are that are causing the difficulties. Money and the lack of communication are two of the biggest reasons I think that people end up wanting to go their separate ways. These can be expanded to one or the other feeling controlled and ignored by the other. You may have started out as a team but somewhere along the line the one who makes the most money seems to always wear the pants in the family.
If the two of you agree that neither of you wants a divorce then start this process by sitting down and talking to each other and setting some ground rules. Then agree to see a counselor. If one of you can't seem to get there right off the bat then the one who wants to go should start seeing someone. Find someone that is a good fit for both of you so when the reluctant one comes around you will have success and not another thing to fight about. There has been enough fighting.
If a counselor is out of the question then make an appointment to see your pastor. He or she will guide you through these tough times and help you come out the other side a better and stronger couple for weathering this bad patch. Maybe just being reminded of the happy years you had will be enough and if this is the same pastor who married you he or she can help you see that what you have is worth all this. Reading a couple of scriptures and a reminder of your vows and the love that was once there may be just the ticket to stop your divorce save your marriage.
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