Just about every single person above a certain age has, at one time or another, experienced the pain of a relationship coming to an end. Trying to forget about it and moving on is the way the majority of people try to deal with it. That's a shame. Why? Because the vast majority of relationships can be saved if at least one of the people is willing to do whatever it takes. If you are such a person, then you need to know how to get back with an ex.
The first thing you need to do if you want to get back together is to take an honest look at why the break up really happened. Be careful because this is often harder than it sounds. You may notice the things that were at the surface, but those are usually just the symptoms of something deeper. For example, you may think you broke up because the two of you argued all the time. But the real question is what was the cause of the arguing? Did one of you have control issues? Were you quick to lose your temper? Was there a lack of communication? Trust? Either way, you need to dig down deep and get to the root of the problems before you can move forward.
The next step of how to get back with your ex is to start working on solutions to those problems on your own. You can work on making any changes in yourself, as they relate to your part in the problems you had. If you had no part whatsoever in the break up, then you need to rethink that belief. It always takes two, and while one person may be worthy of more blame, there is still some blame that is for you to bear. However, you can start to fix those things...but only when you know what they really are.
Once you have those things worked out, you can contact your ex. You may be tempted to lay everything on them and tell them all of the problems you have worked out, and how everything will be just perfect as soon as you are together again. Resist that temptation. Everybody is different, and your ex probably isn't in the same frame of mind as far as the possibility of working things out goes. That doesn't mean your chances are shot, it just means they need some more time. That's why you don't want to come on too strong.
The next part of how to get your ex back is to set up a meeting. This is not meant to be a date, so don't call it that, and don't treat it like one. (The only exception is if your ex brings it up first and also wants to get back together.) Keep this meeting friendly, and use it as a chance to let your ex know about some of the things you've been thinking about. Don't be pushy, and don't tell them you're ready to reunite. You don't want to scare them off. In fact, the whole purpose of this first meeting is to have your ex agree to a second meeting. Take things as they come and you will be back together before you know it.
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