Getting married is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life, and it often is. However, the honeymoon soon comes to an end and reality sets in. You have tried to smooth things over, but now you are on the verge of splitting up. What you need want to know is how to stop a divorce.
The main question is do you just have a feeling that a divorce is about to happen, has it been expressed verbally, or have divorce papers actually been filed? Each one requires different ways of handling the situation.
You just have a "feeling". If this is the case, then you need to take some time to get to the root of why you're feeling this way. What problems are the two of you facing as a couple? What can be done about them? You basically need to determine if these feelings are well-founded, or if you are blowing things out of proportion (that's okay, it happens). You have to start a dialog with your spouse if you want to stop a divorce. It doesn't have to be about the big "D-word", but you should discuss your marriage.
It has been expressed verbally. Let's face it, sometimes arguments can get downright nasty. Now, that doesn't excuse either one of you from making the threat of divorce, but it is a possible explanation. The key is to do your best to figure out if it was a serious threat, or if it was just a "heat of the moment" thing. Either way, seeking the advice of a professional marriage counselor is a good idea at this stage. They will be able to help the two of you sort some things out. And even if divorce was never a real threat, a counselor can help you get along better.
Papers have been filed. Believe it or not, even this situation is not completely hopeless. Sure, it will take more effort to undo it, but it can be done. Most states have laws that require a period of several months to elapse between the filing of papers and the finalization of the divorce. This is the situation that will require the most damage control, and you will have to act quickly. Pull out all the stops. Talk to your spouse right away, and let them know you are ready and willing to work things out; whatever it takes.
You will notice that all of these ways to stop a divorce have something in common: they all require action on your part if you want it to stop. Each potential threat to your marriage requires a different response, but a response is required. While there is no guarantee you will be able to prevent it from happening, it is not a problem that will go away by ignoring it. It's going to take effort, but it will be more than worth it when the two of you are still married, and happily married at that.
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