If you find yourself in the position of being the dumped boyfriend you may be wondering where you went wrong. Let's take a look at a particular scenario that resulted with Max being the dumped boyfriend. Max was invited to a party but his girlfriend Sarah wasn't able to go along. Max went to the party anyway, had a few too many drinks and ended up making out with some girl he didn't even know. Some of Sarah's friends were at the party and they wasted no time letting her know about Max's cheating!
Sarah called Max and dumped him. Among the many unprintable names that she called him, she told him that she never wanted to see him again.
Max felt terrible about the whole situation. He had too many drinks and made a bad judgement call but he really didn't think one bad call was enough reason to end a perfectly good relationship. So Max tried everything he could to get Sarah back, but he went about it all wrong.
His first mistake (other than the obvious one with the random girl he made out with) was that he grovelled when Sarah called. He begged Sarah to take him back when he should have just apologized for his mistake and moved on. Sarah is very angry at this time so it isn't the time for grovelling as that will only make her angrier, she needs time to calm down.
Max's next mistake was that he kept hounding her to come back to him. Over the next few days he sent her more than a hundred texts and called her numerous times every day. He sent flowers to her work and her home. Then in a big desperate effort to get her back he went and sang love songs outside her window. It was at this point that her neighbours called the police.
When a woman is this angry with a man, she needs to be alone. She needs time to herself to calm down and get past the angry stage. She needs time to think things through but Max didn't give Sarah the time she needed.
When Max realized that what he was doing wasn't working, he took the whole 'win her back campaign' to the next level. He started dating one of Sarah's best friends and he made sure that Sarah noticed.
Right now Max doesn't stand much chance of changing his dumped boyfriend status!
Sarah's friend Ruth hadn't had a boyfriend for a while and Max knew this so he asked her out and she accepted. Max was silly enough to then call Sarah to ask her for advice on where to take Ruth on their date. Max's plan was to make Sarah jealous so that she'd beg him to take her back but instead Sarah was furious. She isn't stupid, she knew exactly what Max was doing and was very angry that Max would take advantage of her friend Ruth to get back at her. She was also very angry at Ruth for agreeing to go on a date with Max.
Everything that Max is doing is having the opposite effect of what he wants. He is playing the desperate ex boyfriend role which is not the way to win back your ex.
Sarah moved on from Max and soon started dating a new guy and when Max found out he did everything in his power to break them up. Max really had burned all of his bridges by this time, all he had managed to do was push Sarah further away and ruined any hope of them reconciling.
This story could have had a completely different ending if Max had played his cards right even after that stupid mistake he made at that party. Sarah could have forgiven him for his lapse in judgement that night if he had approached things in a different way but because he acted like a desperate fool he lost her for good. If you are the dumped boyfriend, be careful at how you approach the situation or you just might stay the dumped boyfriend.
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