A divorce can be a very traumatic and taxing event. It can be a lengthy and costly experience and can generally just bring you down. So it is no wonder that people want to celebrate and feel good after it is all done and the smoke has settled.
A divorce ceremony is not as uncommon as you might think. A lot of people will hold a party when a divorce is finalized and done with. It can be a great way to lift the spirits and unwind after such a long and taxing process.
However a lot of people go into such an event with the wrong mind set. Just like everything, the meaning put into it is just as important as the celebration itself. If you go into it with the wrong attitude, it will not give you what you are looking for.
A lot of people will perform actions during the ceremony such as giving back rings, or burning their marriage certificate or reversing their vows. This all might sound like a fun idea at the time but it can hinder your growth into the future.
The whole point of a divorce ceremony is to use it to accept what has happened, to cleanse yourself and move forward. If you use it to cultivate the negative emotions, the anger and bitterness you feel, it is being counter productive and just holding you back.
You should use that ceremony as a chance to let it all go, flush out all those negative emotions. The ceremony should be there to help you accept the divorce, accept why it ended, understand why it ended, and forgive your spouse. By letting go of all those negative emotions and coming to terms with it all, you can freely move on with your life.
This is especially true if your marriage was not that great and ended on bad terms. Holding a grudge does not do anybody any good.
What you can do to help you with this is to remember all the good times that were had. Even if your marriage was bad and ended badly, there had to have been good times as well. After all there is a reason you fell in love with them and married them in the first place.
By recalling all those good times you had together, you can better accept all the bad times as well. And accepting it all, the good and the bad, is the kind of mindset you need in such a ceremony.
So while divorces are often seen as failures on the part of both parties. And while they are often negative affairs. You do not need to let that negativity influence you forever. A divorce ceremony is the best time for moving on with your life.
Also remember to save any documents you might have. As I mentioned earlier, many people will burn their marriage certificate and you should not do this. Not only does it cultivate those negative feelings, but you may very well need that document some day. So keeping it somewhere safe and sound can both be a legal safety net, and also an emotional way of accepting what has happened and locking that part of your life away.
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