Divorces are very long and troublesome ordeals. They can be dragged out for a long time which can in turn run up the cost. They can also be very emotionally draining. So it is wise to be as prepared as you can be for your divorce so you do not get overwhelmed.
A divorce checklist can help you stay organized and keep your thoughts oriented during your divorce. There is so much going on that you need to be able to focus on what is important so you can get through this.
There are a lot of things you could add to your check list, so I can not list everything simply because there is so much. But there are some rather big things you should keep in mind when proceeding forward.
1. Keep your kids out of it. If you have kids, then this is probably the most important one. Divorces have a nasty habit of dragging children into the mix, for a variety of reasons. Whether it is because you are afraid of losing your kids along with everything else, and thus try to force them to pick you over your spouse.
Or because you are trying to spite your spouse by turning your kids against them. Or even just because you lost your cool and say things you should not in front of them. Try to remember that just because your life is in turmoil does not mean you should stop protecting your kids.
2. Another addition to a divorce checklist should be to make sure you get a good lawyer. You might think that all lawyers are there for you, on your side. But that is not always the case. Some lawyers want to take the path of least resistance and get it over with as soon as possible so they can get paid. So make sure you get a lawyer willing to go all out and fight for you.
3. Maintain records of your finances and assets. Keeping track of everything can make sure nothings gets lost or stolen during your divorce. A dirty trick some people play is hiding money to prevent their spouse from getting a fair amount. By keeping detailed records you can prevent this from happening.
4. Try to avoid contact with your spouse. Using your lawyers to communicate is your best bet. If you speak to your spouse without your lawyer present, you might agree to something you should not have, or say something that should not have been said. Making sure you only deal with your lawyer protects you during the divorce.
A divorce is not a pleasant affair and can be very troubling and overwhelming. But if you use a divorce checklist to help you organize your thoughts and stay focused, you can do well in your divorce. It is all about keeping your head above water and not getting dragged down during the whole ordeal. As long as you write up a check list with everything you need to worry about, you can keep yourself covered mentally, you do not want to break down during your divorce after all.
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