Being in a loving relationship is one of the best experiences you will ever have. When things are going good, you feel great, but when they come to an end there is nothing but heartache. Still, you at some point you are going to have to move beyond it and get over love. The love you used to have is gone and you need to find a way to accept it so you can start living your life again.
Before we start getting into some of the steps you can take to get over love, it's important to point out that it won't always be easy.
Your first course of action should be figuring out whether or not things are truly over between the two of you. Just because you have had a heated argument and aren't together right now, doesn't mean that you can't work things out. Perhaps you drove each other crazy, or hurt each other's feelings, but all of those things can be fixed. The catch is that you both have to want to work things out, and be willing to do whatever it takes.
Of course, getting back together is a valid way to get over a lost love, because you are effectively finding them again. Remember, you can't change the other person so they either need to be ready to change, or you need to be able to live with their lack of change. Saying you're sorry and forgiving them for anything they did wrong will go a long way toward patching things up. If there is no possibility of getting back together, then the following advice should help.
For the time being, you should do your best to remove any traces of your ex from your life. Things like love letters and photographs are obvious, but there are things that are less obvious, such as any items the two of you purchased together. You do not have to throw these things away or destroy them, just get them out of sight for a while. The fewer reminders you have of your lost love, the better.
You will also need to tie up any loose ends. For example, if the two of you had a joint bank account then you need to freeze or close it as soon as possible. Once that's done, you can divide the money up fairly. There may also be various items that you have to sort out. Do your best to remain logical and respectful during this process. If it gets to be too much for either of you then try again in a few days if at all possible.
Now comes the fun part...rediscovering yourself for who you really are. It is really easy to change when you're in a relationship. Not all changes are bad, but they are still changes. This may sound silly to some people, but the best way to get over love is to fall in love with who you really are. After all, nobody would deny that having positive self-esteem is much more enjoyable than wallowing in self-pity.
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