There are all kinds of people in this world, and that's what makes life interesting. The down side is that you sometimes run into to people who are somewhat off balance. If your boyfriend fits that description, then there's a good chance that your girlfriends are telling you to cheat on him, to play the field. But a good rule of thumb is to never cheat on your crazy boyfriend.
Let's be honest, cheating and being a "player" is more acceptable in today's society, but that doesn't make it right. Some people will argue that it's okay to cheat on your boyfriend if he's emotionally unstable. The way those people justify it is by saying that he somehow deserves to be cheated on because of his behavior. Wrong!
The problem with the idea of justified cheating is that it tries to fix a wrong by doing wrong. The saying "two wrongs don't make a right" applies here. When you started going out with him, you made a promise to not be unfaithful. Perhaps you never talked about it, but that promise is always assumed in this kind of a relationship. Keeping your word and remaining true are important character traits.
Now, it may be true that your boyfriend is indeed crazy (however you define that term), or isn't a nice guy, but as long as the two if you are going out, it's up to you to be faithful. Your girlfriends probably just want you to see somebody else, which is why they are encouraging you to cheat on him. Here's what they don't realize: cheating on him will only lead to bad things.
Let's look at the two possibilities and what the likely result is:
1. He will find out. Chances are quite high that he will find out about you cheating on him. How will he react? What are the real odds that he will just shrug it off and be on his merry way? If you already think he's "crazy" then cheating on him isn't going to help the situation in any way.
2. He won't find out. Even if he never finds out, you will always know that you cheated on him. It may feel good or exciting at the time, but then guilt and low self-esteem will set in.
So, what can you do if you don't want to be with him anymore? The main thing is to not let him scare you into staying with him. That is a form of abuse, and you should get away from him as soon as possible. If he's not forcing you to stay, but you want to go your separate ways, then you will have to break up with him. In fact, you can do just about anything you want to, as long as you never cheat on your crazy boyfriend.
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