I really don't think that there are many things worse in life than screwing up and losing a good relationship. It's hard enough when things fall apart and it wasn't your fault (mostly). But when you've done it to yourself, that is the worst. The regret, the pain, the shame all combine to make you feel pretty lousy. If you find yourself in this situation and you're saying "I want him to love me again" than pay attention, I may just be able to help.
First things first, what went wrong? What did you do or say that pushed him away and, more importantly, why did you do or say those things? It's not uncommon for people to sabotage a good relationship. I know that sounds dumb but many people simply don't know how to react when something good happens to them. They will allow all the negative thoughts inside of them (as well as the negatives in the outside world) to mess with their head.
They will become convinced that this relationship is just too good to be true, too good to last. They will sub consciously sabotage it and ruin it. They don't realize they are doing it, but the end result is the same: they've screwed up a great relationship and now they get to be "right".
You see, if in their minds they are convinced that a relationship can't last, especially a good relationship, and they sub consciously ruin it, then they were right. They can say "See, I knew this relationship wouldn't last" They might be right but they are also lonely and in pain.
What I have just outlined is very, very common. The worst part is you don't even realize that's what you're doing. So if you want to get your lover to be in love with you again, and you realize now just what you've done, you can still fix it.
The first thing you really should do is to find a good (and no, not all of them are good) counselor. You need to work out why you don't believe that good things can happen, or why you believe that good things can't, or shouldn't, happen to you.
Then you should talk openly and honestly with him. Let him know that you now realize that you were the one, even though it was on a sub conscious level, that pushed him away. Don't be afraid to be completely honest with him. Tell him that you're sorry and more importantly that you've gotten help and now you are a bigger person who can enjoy the benefits of a great relationship.
It might take a while for him to learn to trust you again. If this is what you want, you have to be willing to give him time. Anyone who has been hurt is going to have a really hard time trusting that person again and risk being hurt all over again. But with time, patience, and a lot of love you can find a way to win him back.
There are many reasons why relationships fall apart. Sometimes the relationship just isn't any good and it's for the best, but other times we can all be guilty of throwing away the best thing that ever happened to us. When that happens and you are saying: "I want him to love me again" just know that virtually anything can be overcome if you want it badly enough.
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