Have you just been dumped and are left wondering why did your girlfriend break up with you? Trust me you are not alone, in fact three quarters of relationships are ended by the woman. So there are more guys that go through this 'being dumped' experience than women.
So if you have been dumped, what do you do now? Men are often expected to get over these things much quicker than women. It is thought that women are more emotional and will spend more time trying to mend their broken heart than what a man would. But many men are quite sensitive and it is just as hurtful for them when a relationship ends, even if they don't show it all that much.
A relationship break up is just as painful for a man as it is for a woman; they just aren't expected to show those emotions.
Men are often stereotyped as being interested in any woman they meet and are happy to go from one fling to another and never be tied down. The truth is that many men do actually place a lot of value on a stable relationship and are looking for the perfect woman to spend his life with.
So when you think you have found that perfect woman and then she dumps you, it can be difficult to pick up the pieces and move on with your life.
Men tend to keep their emotions to themselves and find it difficult to express what they are feeling. Men keep a lot of their feelings bottled up and this can be devastating long term. Girls can often release their feelings and emotions by talking to a girlfriend or writing in a diary, but men don't tend to do this as much. Because men don't get their emotions out they can linger much longer and as a result they can take longer to get over a breakup.
You should get rid of all the memories of your ex from your home. I'm sure you will have photos, clothes, cd's and other items that belong to her or remind you of her. If you leave these around your house then you are constantly being reminded of her and that will make it harder to get over her. So throw things away, give things back to her or even just store things away for now, just get rid of them so you aren't looking at them every day.
Although she might want to stay friends, being friends with her can make it harder to get over her. If you are constantly seeing her, talking to her or texting her then it will be difficult to move on. Perhaps friendship is an option later on, but when you first break up it is better to close off communications for a while so that you can learn to come to terms with the relationship ending. You need to have space so that your heart can heal.
You might find that you don't really feel like going out with your friends and having fun, you probably just aren't in the mood. But getting out with your friends and having fun is the best thing that you can do right now. Having fun with your mates will take your mind of your break up and you will start enjoying life again.
Eventually you will be ready to get back into the dating scene again. You don't need to rush back into it, in fact it is better to take your time and make sure that you are over your ex before getting involved with anyone else. There is someone out there who is perfect for you and you will find her, it will just take a bit of time to get over your last relationship and move on with your future.
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