Breaking up is never a fun thing to do, yet there are times when it just has to be done. However, that doesn't mean you have to be a jerk about it. Accept the fact that things are coming to an end, and do your best to handle the break up with some class. With that in mind, here is some breaking up advice to help things go more smoothly.
1. Make sure that you're sure. We're all human and that means we make mistakes. Perhaps you think you want to break up, but do you really? Maybe you're just frustrated and don't know how to handle it, or maybe there is something else going on that is making you think you want to break up. Whatever the case may be, be sure you want to break up before you start following through. After all, it's much easier to never start the process of breaking up than it is to try to undo it once the idea has been expressed.
2. Don't be slow. This one can be tricky. Telling somebody that you want to break up with them is a hard thing to do. You don't want to be with them any more, but you don't want to hurt their feelings either. But it's best to break up as quickly as you can, otherwise you will feel trapped in a relationship you can't wait to get out of.
3. Be ready. Before you tell the other person that you want to break up, you need to make sure that you have thought things through. Be prepared to give your real reasons, then stick to them. You need to be prepared for them to beg you to stay, and you also need to be prepared for them to get angry. You should also give consideration to how and where you will tell them.
4. Do it in person. If you want to break up, then you need to do it in person. This is not the kind of thing you should handle over the phone or via e-mail. The only exception is if you are trying to get out of an abusive relationship. If that's the case, then the less time you are around them, the better.
5. Wrap up the loose ends. Breaking up often entails more than just going your separate ways. If you have been together for a while then there may be bills, debts and property to take care of. Do your best to be fair, but don't be a pushover just because you want it to be over. It's a good idea to get any agreements in writing, just to be on the safe side.
6. Be nice. You want to break up, but there is no reason to be mean about it. You are simply moving on to a new chapter in your life. Do not try to hurt the other person. Treat them with dignity and respect, not matter how undeserving you think they are.
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