When you break up with a guy it can be a very difficult time and you will surely spend a lot of time wondering what went wrong and if there is anything you can do to get him back. Here is some advice on how to cope with a boyfriend break up.
The first thing you need to do is determine whether the relationship is well and truly over. You won't be able to move on with your life until you can honestly say to yourself that he is no longer a part of your life anymore, just an experience from the past. When you accept this then you can begin to move on.
If you think your relationship still has a chance, then you might want to start out as being 'friends' again and hopefully lead that friendship back into a relationship. But if your relationship is truly over then you need to work toward accepting your life as it now is and put your ex boyfriend in the past.
To move on with your life you need closure to recognize that the relationship is over and your new life is beginning. When you get closure then you can begin the healing process. Here are some steps that you can take to find closure on your relationship.
1. Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside. Find someone that you can talk to and share your feelings with so that you can get them out in the open. It is harder to move on if you keep your feelings bottled up.
If you have a close friend or family member that you can talk to who can help you through this difficult time, then call on them for help. A true friend will be there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on or a listening ear.
If you don't feel that you can talk to friends or family you can see a therapist who can help you work through your feelings and at the same time it is with someone that isn’t close to you in your usual daily life.
If you don't want to visit a therapist or talk to family or friends, then why not write down your feelings in a journal. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you to understand them better and help to get them out so you aren't keeping your feelings bottled up.
2. The next step to moving on and finding closure is to get rid of any reminders of your ex boyfriend. I'm sure you will have many things that were given to you as a gift from him, or things that you bought together on a shopping trip, anything that has a significant memory of your relationship needs to go. There might be things that you don't want to throw away and you can perhaps give these back to him, or if they are gifts that you really want to keep then store them away for now where you can't see them. You don't want to be seeing things on a daily basis that will just remind you of your past relationship.
3. Begin your new life by finding something new to do with your life. If you sit around at home on your own you will just keep thinking about your ex boyfriend. It is best to keep busy and find something to do that will take your mind off the past.
If there are things that you wanted to do but your boyfriend was never keen on, then this is the time to make the most of your freedom and do whatever you want. Do things that will make you happy and that are fun. You can join a gym, start taking a class to further your education, or do some volunteer work. There are many things that you can do to get you out of the house and keep your mind off your past.
When you are keeping busy and doing things that you enjoy you will begin to think less and less about your ex boyfriend and start enjoying life for yourself.
When you can reach the stage that you find you are not thinking about your ex much anymore then you can move on and begin the next stage of your life. There is someone out there for you and now that you don't have your ex holding you back, you are free to move on and meet Mr. Right.
You might not find Mr. Right straight away, these things happen when they are meant to happen. Just enjoy your life and have as much fun as you can and when you do find someone special those old feelings for Mr. Wrong will be long gone.
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