I'm assuming that you are an adult and as such would like helpful information from another adult on the best way relationship break up get back together. Of course, if you prefer, you could take your chances looking all over the internet for advice, but when you find some gibberish seemingly written by a 10 year old, don't say I didn't warn you.
You see, knowing what not to do if you want your ex back, is maybe more important than knowing what to do... or at least as important. Many people do exactly the wrong thing when they are faced with this difficult situation. It's not really their fault, few of us react at our best when we're under a lot of emotional strain.
Even though everyone is different and every relationship is different, there are some basic principles that have helped thousands of people reunite, and they can help you too.
Here are some ideas:
1. The first thing you will want to do is probably the first thing you should never do: call your ex. I know, you feel like if you don't contact them and let them know you still love them they may find someone else. But that's not really the way it works.
It's true that your ex may well start dating but if they were really in love with you, it will take more than a week or two or a hot body to remove you from their heart.
In most cases people who start dating right away after a break up are just looking for someone to ease their pain and loneliness. Give your ex some time to actually miss you. Don't make yourself appear pathetic or like a stalker.
2. Spend your time thinking about you, and not them. I know this will be harder than it sounds, but it's important. If the two of you have any chance of getting back together and making things work you will need to figure out who you are and what you want.
It's a very good idea to try and figure out where things went wrong with your ex. Once you know what the problems were, you should try to figure out how to fix them. One big mistake some people make is that they act like it's totally up to them to make things right in the relationship. Nope.
If the two of you can't, or won't, work together to fix the issues, your own issues as well as the issues you had as a couple, than you might as well run and leave it all in the past. You can't do it all.
3. After all this, it's time to call your ex and ask them if they would like to get together. Try to arrange a coffee date or some other time when the two of you can spend some time together. Try to relax, be fun and happy and they will be reminded of the person they fell in love with before.
Following all this advice may not be easy to do, but these steps have been proven time and again to help two people reunite and this is the best way relationship break up get back together that I've ever heard of.
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