Break ups are never all that easy to cope with. It's unfortunate, but it's a fact of life. Perhaps this is because so much attention is given on how to attract a mate, that nobody thinks to consider the possibility of splitting up. Regardless of why breaking up is hard to do, both partners will have some negative emotions that they will need to work through. And, if you happen to be the person who was dumped and you didn't see it coming, then that makes a bad situation worse.
The first thing you should know is that it's perfectly acceptable to have bad feelings after you break up with someone. You need some time to express yourself and let those emotions come out. However, at some point you have to get beyond it and try to carry on with living a normal life. I won't kid you, it can be hard...but it is possible if you follow a proven plan and are willing to do what needs to be done. Here are some things you can do to help you cope with a break up.
If you still think about your ex a lot, then you have to do what you can to think about them less. Of course you will still have memories, and there's no reason you should permanently erase their existence from your mind, but you also have to be careful to not overdo it. For that reason, it's a good idea to remove any reminders of your ex that you may have around. You can throw them away, sell them, burn them, or store them; depending on what's best for each item. If you want to keep some items, but don't want them in your house, then see if a trusted friend or family member can hold to them until you are coping better.
Hanging out with your friends is a great way to get your ex out of your mind. Have fun, live it up! By going out with friends you will also be plugging into your personal support network. In other words, your friends and family can help you to get through this rough time in your life. Be warned, though, that they may mean well, but they don't always understand. If this happens, be polite and know that their intentions are good...and that they care about you.
Getting a new hobby is another way to cope after a break up. You will have to spend your time learning a new set of skills and it will keep your mind busy with something else. You can choose quiet hobbies that require the use of your brain or hands, or you can go for something more active that involves other people; whatever works best for you.
Talk to someone. Find somebody you trust that you can talk to. This could be a friend, family member, clergy, or a counselor. Just knowing that there is somebody who will listen to you can work wonders in getting over an ex.
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