If you have recently been through a break up, then you know as well as anybody just how awful it can be to deal with. Even the friendliest of break ups will leave both people feeling bad. After all, a part of your life is no longer there. There are many reasons why people go their separate ways, but what if you want to get your ex back? That's a good question. Here are some things for you to consider.
The most important question is: do you really want to get back together with your ex? This is a trickier question than you may think. Your gut reaction may be, "Of course I want to get back with my ex, I still love them!" But keep in mind that your emotions are going to be out of whack after the break up. While you may think you miss your ex and love them, it's also possible that you are just in love with the idea of being in love. So, before you move forward, it is vital that you determine if you really want to get back with your ex or not. (For the remainder of this article we will assume you do want to back together.)
If you want to get your ex back, then you will need to start by improving your communication. Knowing how to talk with each other is about the best thing you can do to improve your chances of working things out.
Want to know the biggest secret of talking to somebody? It's not talking at all. That's right, the best way to talk to somebody is to be a good listener. The better you are at listening, the better the other person will feel. Remember, listening requires effort. You have to pay attention and make sure you understand what your ex is saying. Don't simply wait for them to stop talking so you can say your piece. Instead, listen, then respond to what they've just said. It may sound obvious, but I have seen a lot of couples who talk at each other instead of having a meaningful conversation.
You may not think of it as such, but flirting is actually a form of communication. It all comes down to conveying a message. In this case, the message is that you're interested in hooking up with your ex again. This is more of an advanced move but it can work. Be sure to watch how your ex reacts. If they don't appear to be receptive to your flirtations, then back off. However, if they start flirting back, then that's a good sign they are ready to work things out.
As you can see, communication is an important skill if you want to get your ex back. It won't always be easy, but it can be done. Keep your ultimate goal in mind as you're talking to your ex and the two of you may be back together before you know it.
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