You know, relationships are great...when they are going well. You feel awesome, and there are times when you are so content that you can't imagine them getting any better. That's all well and good, but unfortunately, not all relationships last. Yes, we are talking about the dreaded break up. When this happens we feel downright awful.
If this has happened to you recently, then you know how bad it can be. Maybe you saw it coming for quite some time, or maybe it happened suddenly. Either way, you want to know about the possibility of saving your relationship. There is a silver lining to the dark cloud that's hanging over you, and that is the fact that most relationships can be saved. The catch is that you have to follow a proven plan, and you have to be willing to do whatever it takes to work things out.
All of your feelings, as bad as they may be, are normal. You have been through a lot, and you will have good days, and not-so-good days. While it's okay to feel awful, you shouldn't let it take over your life, and it should only be temporary. Go ahead and feel bad for a while, but then work on clearing your head so you can move on to the next step of saving your relationship. This may sound impossible but you will have an easier time with it if you can keep your ultimate goal in mind.
Head cleared? Great! The next thing to do is unearth what went wrong. The problem is that we are quick to notice those things that are on the surface, but that won't quite cut it. For example, you may think the problem is arguing. But the truth is that arguing is only the symptom of a deeper issue. Your task is to figure out what those deeper issues are. After all, you can't fix it if you don't know what's really broken.
Now that you know what the real problems, it's time to roll up your sleeves and start fixing them. You really only have a few choices as to how you can handle them. You can ignore them, fix them, or forgive them. It will all depend on how serious the problem is, and how likely it is that it will have an effect on the two of you if you should get back together. Small problems that don't really mean much can often be ignored. Problems that affect how the two of you interact with one another should be solved. Problems that only came up once or twice, but were somewhat major can be forgiven. Of course you and your ex will have to decide what is best for each issue.
Following these steps will put you on the right track to getting back together again. Keep in mind that saving a relationship is going to take some effort, but the best things in life often do.
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