When a relationship breaks up both parties involved will experience different emotions during the breakup journey. Regardless of whether you were the person who initiated the break up or not you will still experience an emotional ride. If you have been with someone for a long time they become a big part of your life and so you will have some emotions involved when they are no longer such a big part of your life.
It can be a little easier to get through the whole break up process if you can recognize the different steps and emotions that you go through. It is necessary to go through the different emotions as part of the healing process. If you don't go through the emotions you may not heal completely and will find it difficult to fall in love again.
Each step may vary in how long it takes depending on the person. There are many factors that can determine how long the whole healing process will take. A person who is very confident and happy within themself is likely to go through the healing process faster than a person with little self confidence and who is generally not happy with themself.
Let's take a look at the five steps of a relationship breakup.
1. Firstly there is pain. You will usually be struck with pain immediately. At first there will be some degree of disbelief but once that passes you will find yourself in a lot of pain. You won't feel like eating and you may have trouble sleeping and normal everyday tasks will feel like they require too much effort. At this time you may not even want your friends or family around you, you just want to be left alone.
2. Next you will go through a stage of denial. You will believe that the breakup is only temporary and soon your ex will realize they have made a mistake and will want you back. You may sit back and relax a little in your belief that everything will be alright and you will soon be back together. This can be a damaging stage if you linger here too long as it can stop you from moving on and finishing the whole healing process.
3. Anger is next. Your pain eases and you are no longer in denial and those feelings then turn into anger. You will wonder how you got to this place in your life and how your ex could do this to you. Your emotions during this stage can affect the way that you act so you need to be careful that you don't do anything hurtful or destructive that you might regret later. Also, if you hold onto this anger and can't move past it then you will find it very difficult to have a happy relationship with anyone else.
4. The next stage is the grieving stage. Just as you would mourn a death you would also mourn the death of a relationship. Even though the person hasn't died, they are no longer with you and so you will grieve the ending of what they two of you shared together. This is a sad stage and one in which you need to be aware of your feelings. Some people during this stage will believe that they will never find love like that again and can fall into a deep depression. It is normal to grieve the end of a relationship but just be careful that you don't become depressed. Grieve and then move on.
5. The final stage is acceptance. You will come to a point when you will realize the relationship is over and you will be accepting of that. You will begin to think about your future on your own and spend less time thinking about the past and about your ex. You may even become quite excited about the future you now look forward to and the possibility of finding love again.
If you know what the emotional stages of a breakup are then it can make it easier to work through them. All of these emotions are perfectly normal so just work through them and you will soon find yourself looking forward to your future.
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