If you have powerful relationships that make you feel good about yourself then that is a great thing. A good relationship always makes you feel like you are on top of the world. I think that all relationships are powerful in their own way, especially in the beginning. Where would the attraction be otherwise?
Powerful relationships can be the best thing that ever happened to you or, frankly, the worst thing, too. Depends on the people involved. If the two of you are strong enough to let the other lead on occasion and one of you does not monopolize every situation then you probably have a pretty good relationship.
But, if one of you rides roughshod over the other and never lets up then that person will tire of the whole thing at some point and let the relationship go. I think that is why most of those dating services work as well as they do, because they use specific criteria to match people up together. Finding someone you are compatible with is a hard thing to do. Then learning to live together can be just as hard.
Too many people think they can fall in love and that will always make everything all alright. Love is a grand thing but if you live together, the honeymoon soon ends and reality moves in right behind you and will bite you in the butt. Soon you each are wondering what the heck were you thinking? Know why? Because no one ever takes the time to learn to live together. It is not an automatic thing. You have to teach yourselves how to be together.
This can be done separately but I would suggest you do it together. That way you will both be on the same page when it comes to how you handle things. Try this, one evening soon after you have moved in together, sit down and each of you write down what you expect of the other one in the relationship. This can be as small as who will be the one to take out the garbage to who will pay what bill. You could just pool your money and then pay the bills, keeping out what you both need to make it through the week.
I am not just talking about just living together, this should be done right after you get married, too. People are not born knowing how to live together but if you work together to accomplish this then the outcome will be worth the happiness you share together. Tell each other frequently that you love them, but more importantly than that, tell them that you like them and enjoy being around them.
Depending on the amount of time you have been together, you may already have the feeling of familiarity. This feeling of familiarity is made by the things you do together and the quality of that time spent in each other's company. Special moments spent together help create this history and a major sense of intimacy and helps keep powerful relationships in one piece.
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