I have got some advice for you if you are serious about learning what to do to get your ex girlfriend back. The first thing you need to realize is that she no longer trusts what you say or do. She may still love you even though since she broke up with you she has been trying hard not to and no one understands how she could still love you when you treated her so badly.
Your first step should be figuring out the reason, or reasons, why you treated her so badly in the first place. Now, I'm no therapist but I do know that everything that happens, happens for some reason and everything has it's own special set of consequences, good or bad. If you really want a second chance with your ex girlfriend, you need to figure out why you act and say the things you do. Then, when you have things figured out you need to find ways to change your behavior and that will probably will take some time.
Usually, when someone behaves badly, it is their insecur- ities coming to the forefront because they do not know how to handle a situation correctly. No one ever wants to admit when they are insecure, usually not even to themselves, but more often than not that is the reason. I've often said that money is not the root of all evil, insecurity is.
If you are over-compensating because you feel inadequate and you think that by acting like a 'big man' and letting your girl know 'who is the boss'; you are some how "more of a man" you need to think again. This is one of the surest signs that you are actually not 'the big man' and that you are in fact a scared little boy who desperately wants the love of your woman but are too afraid to let her know that or ask for it.
She probably already does know that, on some level at least. Everyone can see when someone is trying to over-compensate. It's very common, you see it all the time. The guy with the really loud motorcycle, or another guy will treat his girl like garbage, still another guy will try to prove he is a man by sleeping with every woman out there but none of these things is the way to get your ex girlfriend back.
If you really are a secure man, you won't need to work so hard to try and prove it. If you concentrate all your efforts on being a decent, caring, honest human being those around you will have more respect and trust for you and if you really want to be the 'big man' that is a much better way to go about it than all the other BS.
Even after you've faced up to your own BS don't expect your ex girlfriend to trust you right away. No matter how hard you may try to convince her that you've changed, actions speak louder than words and if you're really serious about getting her back you will have to show her that you have changed. That will take time. If you're not willing to invest that time it is best that you just let her go to find someone else who can treat her the way she deserves to be treated and forget about trying to get your ex girlfriend back.
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