As humans we often tend to make things much more difficult than they really need to be. Why? Heck, I don't know. But I do know that figuring out what the relationship psychology is in your relationship and how you can make things better may not really be as hard as you thought.
The truth of the matter is that we all are excellent liars, at least when we lie to ourselves. More than likely every one has had at least one relationship in which they knew in their heart that the person they were with was the wrong person for them, but they chose to ignore it. I know I have.
It's just so darn easy to pretend that someone is something they aren't or pretend they aren't something that they are. We do it all the time. In a lot of cases it's just this 'simple' lying that makes the relationship unbearable over time.
When you and your honey are in the first blush of love, it's pretty easy to ignore the obvious signs of trouble: he will promise to call, but doesn't and you'll ignore it and make excuses for him.
Or she will snap at you and belittle you in public and you will chalk it up to her being nervous or in a bad mood.
And sometimes, it's appropriate to ignore these things. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes, but when the mistakes become a pattern it's time to pay attention... and many times we don't.
Another problem comes along in the form of sex. A lot of people mistakenly believe that men need or want sex more than women. That is not entirely true, but they may want it for slightly different reasons than women do (besides the obvious physical pleasure).
Men often equate their worth with their sexual prowess. A man who has sex a lot or who can make his women feel really good, feels like a big man. He needs and wants the ego boost and the affirmation associated with a good romp.
A women will often want to feel like she is loved and desired. For her it's as much about the heart as it is about the body.
But the bottom line is that both men and women really just want to be loved, respected and admired by their partner. They just gain those feelings in different ways.
Once you understand that both of you want the same things, you just go about getting it in different ways, it might make the whole relationship seem a little easier. Treat your partner with love, dignity and respect and expect them to do the same for you. If both of you follow that rule, your relationship can be a wonderful experience for you both.
Relationship psychology can be complex, but don't get too caught up in the details. Just remember the golden rule: "do unto others as you'd have them do unto you" that is some of the best relationship advice you can ever get or follow.
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