Going through a break up is never easy. To make it worse, there are all kinds of feelings that start to creep in. Hurt, anger, sadness and confusion are all par for the course. Right after a break up it can be really hard to think straight, yet after a short while you start missing your ex. Before you know it--even though some of the sore feelings still linger--you are asking, "how can I get him to love me again?" You can rest easy in knowing that such a question is completely normal, and that it is quite possible to work things out. However, you should also know that it won't be easy and that it's going to take some work.
Before you do anything else, you need to focus on yourself. You have to clear your mind of all of the emotional baggage you have been accumulating since the break up. One way to do this is to cut of all contact with your ex. That means no phone calls, emails or text messages. Not only will this help you get back to a normal state of mind, it will also prevent you from pushing him even further away.
The other benefit of breaking off all contact with your ex is that it gives you a chance to focus on yourself. Break ups have a way of taking their toll on a person. This can affect you both mentally and physically. Spend some time getting back to your "normal" self. Go ahead and treat yourself well, do what you want to do and live your life. Take care of your mental health, and your physical health. If you are having a hard time letting go of the negative emotions, then go see a counselor to help you get through it. Be sure to eat right, exercise and get plenty of sleep, too. Sure, you miss your boyfriend, but you need to be well-adjusted before you will have a chance of winning him back. After all, if you had a choice between being with somebody who is an emotional wreck, or somebody that has their act together, who would you pick?
After you have gone without contacting your ex for a while, and you are sure he has had enough time to come to terms with what has happened, then you can move on to getting in touch with him. Now, you still want to know how can I get him to love me again, and that's okay. Set up a meeting where both of you can talk face-to-face. Try to do this in a public place that both of you consider neutral ground. This meeting is not a date, it's simply a chance for the both of you to discuss the break up and how you may be able to fix it. Be sure to stay respectful, don't argue, be honest and do your best to stay upbeat and positive.
No comments:
Post a Comment