When a couple is having trouble in their relationship they may reading or listening to relationships experts. These experts tend to tell us things that we do already know but have perhaps forgotten. Sometimes we just need to hear it from someone else to make us think about doing it. Sometimes the experts just make things easier to understand. One thing relationships experts are good at is knowing how to communicate.
Experts will say something that is complete common sense but they say it in a way that you 'get it'. One such example is the concept of what to give and what to expect in a relationship.
When a relationship is new it is all exciting and fun but after a while things settle down and this is when couples can start taking each other for granted. We aren't as polite, don't thank them as much and just generally have expectations without giving much in return.
We don't do this because we are being nasty and don't want to be nice, we just forget sometimes to say thank you or do something special. If a relationship reaches the point of break up but you are able to sort things out and get back together, then the time of being kind and thoughtful becomes important again. To keep a relationship strong it is good to make an effort to do this all along.
Another lesson one can learn from relationships experts is to do things for your partner that they will appreciate. Once again this is basic common sense but something that we often overlook. There is no 'certain time' during a relationship that you should do this, it is something that you should do as often as you can.
Of course this doesn't mean that you can't do anything you like and only ever do what your partner wants. You should still do the things you like but also remember to do things that your partner likes so they know that you care enough to do that for them. Simple things like helping out with the dishes or vacuuming can go a long way.
All men and women are different and have different needs so there is no set rule for every relationship. Some people like to be told that they are loved quite often and like to be spoilt with romantic gestures. If your partner is one such person then you should make an effort to do these things.
We sometimes think that all people will like the same things or you may think that because you like something your partner will like it too. It isn't always the case though so you need to get to know what your partner likes.
Respect is another important lesson that we can learn from relationships experts. You should always treat your partner with respect and show them by your actions that you do respect them. Never talk down to your partner or put them down in front of others, always show them respect and love.
Quite often we treat strangers better than we treat those closest to us. If we are going to be home late we might not think to call them and let them know. We might not think it necessary to apologize for things that we would apologize to others for. Listen to the relationships experts and ask yourself do you treat others better than you treat your partner? If so, then it is time to start making some changes.
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