Romantic relationships, is there any other type of relationship in all the history of mankind that has created such joy and such pain? Probably not. There is a saying that goes "you hurt the ones you love" and it must be true based on all the sad songs and self help advice on the subject of relationships.
Whether you are looking for romantic relationships or just need some advice on how to save or make yours better, this article may be able to help out. There is no one size fits all solution to relationship problems, it is up to the couple to figure out what the issues are and how best to deal with them, but there are a few common issues that tend to come up over and over again.
Here are some of those issues along with some ideas of the best way to resolve them:
1. The all time biggie: lack of communication. But what in the world does that really mean? Well, it's all about being able to let others know what you want or don't want. Many people think that communication is about talking, and to a point it is, but it is actually much deeper than that. It's about being able to identify your own feelings and be able to express that to your partner in a constructive, non accusatory manner. That can be the trick.
We are often conditioned to not get angry or upset, this can be especially true for women who even in today's society are still expected to be "nice". After a lifetime of holding your frustration and anger, it can be a challenge to open up and let your partner know what is on your mind.
So if you and your partner seem to be doing a lot of head butting and you just don't seem to be on the same page, you need to each start with yourself first. Make sure you learn how to identify your feelings and then teach yourself constructive ways to articulate those feelings to your partner.
2. Sometimes people just come from different sides of things. You see things one way and your partner sees them another. This can be overcome to a large degree if you just pick people who you have a lot in common with. No one says the two of you should be pretty much identical in the way you look at things, but some common ground on the big issues is a good idea.
If you and your partner are totally different the next best thing would be to agree to disagree. That may sound odd, but as long as the issues you don't see eye to eye on aren't really that important than you don't really have to discuss them at all. Just respect each others intelligence and right to have their own opinion and you should be fine.
3. Learn to compromise. No matter how in sync the two of you are, you will inevitably have some disagreements. There will be times when you need to meet in the middle. Some people are just too competitive, for lack of a better word, and they have to "win" at everything. They find it very hard to just back down. If you want to have good romantic relationships, you must learn how to compromise, period.
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