Wow, should you really pay attention to any relationship advice online? Well, maybe. After all you don't have any idea of the qualifications of the person who is giving out the advice, they might not know what they are talking about. On the other hand, you can always search for advice online and use your own brain and your own common sense to determine how good the advice really is.
If you just want some basic relationship advice online about relatively unimportant things, maybe just to find other opinions on some aspect of your relationship, you can probably find some really great advice. Again, always just use your head and common sense. You will usually be able to tell if some piece of advice seems to make sense or if it is just a lot of garbage.
But if you have a really important issue you need resolved, something that really could be the end of your relationship if it isn't resolved properly, you may want to skip the internet entirely and go meet with a therapist.
A therapist is trained and may be able to help you and your partner navigate troubled waters. sometimes that all a couple really needs, just some guidance. Someone to point out a clear path ahead. A therapist may be your best bet for that.
A word of caution though, as with any other profession, not all therapists are created equal. There is more to a good therapist than just a lot of diplomas hanging on the wall. Do you even like the therapist? Do you feel comfortable with them? Do you trust them? These may seem like unimportant issues but they really aren't.
If you don't trust, like or feel comfortable with a therapist, how can you expect to trust the advice they give you? If you don't trust it, you won't follow it and it won't help you and your partner, will it?
Another important thing to keep in mind is whether or not your partner will be willing to join you not only at the therapy appointments but follow through with the recommendations of the therapist.
For example, before my divorce, I tried to save my marriage and I convinced my husband to go to a therapist with me. He didn't want to go but eventually agreed. One of the big problems in our marriage at the time was the fact that my husband had anger issues. He would fly off the handle at the drop of a hat and would yell at me and the kids.
So, to make things better the therapist recommended that my husband and I have code word that I could say if he was getting out of control. The problem was the first time I tried to use the code word he told me to "shut the F up" right in front of our kids. Needless to say, that was the end of our marriage.
So, the point is, if you aren't both 100% committed to making changes and working on your relationship no amount of relationship advice online, or off, will help.
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