Well, I'm a woman so I do have some relationship advice for men, but I'm not totally sure the men out there will like it! As a woman, you won't hear me say that we are all nuts or that we all love shoes and chocolate (many of us do, but just like men, we are all different and don't really like being all lumped into the same category as every other woman on the planet).
How would you like it if you were lumped into the same category as every other man that your girlfriend dated? So, my first piece of relationship advice for men is to get to know each woman in your life. Treat her like the individual she is and not some mix between your mother and a porn star. It sometimes seems like men don't like to see women as individuals but rather as some fantasy. If you are guilty of this, you really should knock it off.
Treat your girlfriend or wife like you would your friends... only better. Respect her,trust her. If you truly can't trust her because she has proven she is not trustworthy than maybe you should just end the relationship. It's not good to stay in a relationship with someone you can't trust.
Don't expect your girlfriend or wife to understand why you are so reluctant to discuss what is going on in your head. That is a common problem It is true that women tend to be more communicative, men tend to have more of a "I'll handle it myself" kind of thing. Women are built to want to make things better and so are men. We just do it in different ways. Women like you to talk about your problems and open up to them. It makes them feel like you trust them and love them.
Men try to "fix" things. Sometimes a woman may not really like to have a guy try to "fix" things, after all, they are intelligent and capable and they can do it them self. What they often do like is to feel like their guy cares about what they are going through. So, if your girlfriend or wife complains about their boss, for example, they probably aren't expecting you to run off and beat him up, they just want to vent and want you to listen and act like you care. That's it. It really isn't that hard, is it?
And yes, guys, women really do have PMS and it's all well and good for you to laugh about it, but since you have never experienced anything like it, it might be better for you to just shut up. Truthfully, how would you like it if your girlfriend laughed if you got hit in the "family jewels"? How would you feel if she told you that "it can't really hurt that much" or that you are "just using that as an excuse to be a witch"?
Since no woman could ever really know what that pain feels like, it seems kind of odd that any woman should comment on it, doesn't it? The same holds true for you, guys. Since you have never had to deal with the "weirdness" (and yes, it's weird to us too. Do you really think we enjoy going through the pain and the hormone fluctuations every month?) you probably should just leave it be and not talk about it like you really know what it is all about.
I hope this relationship advice for men has helped. If it saves just one relationship between two people who really love (but don't quite understand) each other, it will be worth it!
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